6.22.2009

Silver & gold

When I was in Brownies, I remember singing this particular song from our official Girl Scout Handbook Make New Friends:

Make New Friends

Make new friends,
but keep the old.
One is silver,
the other is gold.

A circle is round,
it has no end.
That's how long,
I will be your friend.

A fire burns bright,
it warms the heart.
We've been friends,
from the very start.

You have one hand,
I have the other.
Put them together,
We have each other.

Silver is precious,
Gold is too.
I am precious,
and so are you.

You help me,
and I'll help you
and together
we will see it through.

The sky is blue
The Earth is green
I can help
to keep it clean

Across the land
Across the sea
Friends forever
We will always be.

Funny, I don't remember all the parts about keeping the earth clean and green. But I think of this little ditty when I'm with friends. I know, Dork Alert. My friendships, the silver and gold ones, are all precious to me. I'm really not trying to get all sappy and corny, but our relationships are so key in our lives. For a SAHM, they can mean a world of difference.

My life has been filled with gold friends. I feel blessed to have so many wonderful people become a part of my life. And I cannot tell you how wonderful it feels to still be tight with my BFF from high school, and college, and my first job, and my second, and fourth. The third hates me, but I digress... And my "wifey" from West Virginia who joined me in pity parties with our infant sons and without our always traveling husbands. And my friend who unexpectedly stayed by my side when BigBoy was born, even though she just stopped by to check on me during her lunch break. Her cold hands just felt amazing on my forehead. I couldn't let her leave.

And this appears to be the year I meet up with several online friends F2F (face to face). I attended WordCamp with a blogger I follow, am planning on meeting up with a friend from my on-line wedding journal planning days this summer and just found out another one of my journal buddies is moving to DC- just 2 hours away!!

And now I'm meeting new, Silver, friends. Some great women who are also moms. Things are falling into place now. And I'm open to it. I really had tunnel vision for a while. Focusing on getting settled, or trying to just get through volleyball season and then the holidays. You know how it goes. And now it's summer. People are out and about again- if they're not on vacation. So I think I'm really open to it now. But it's still work, getting the Silver Friends. It's like dating and trying NOT to be the stalker. Remember the Chick-fil-A meet up? And yes, we're still email mom-courting; trying to figure out our schedules for a playdate again. But see? It works. But it takes work.

I'm finally at a point that I can call people "friends" here. We've been here for 10 months now. So instead of saying "a mom from my homeschool group" or "someone I know" I've been saying a Friend from my homeschool group or a Friend of ours from BigDaddy's work. That type of thing. It feels good.

So is there someone you want to get to know better? I think we are all there, to some degree. It feels like high school all over again, does it not? But we're adults now. So shouldn't it be different? Yes, it should. But often times it isn't.

So here's your challenge: Write the email to connect/reconnect with a friend. Turn the tables and make that phone call you keep hoping comes your way. Offer to help out a friend in a way that would make your day. Put yourself out there and see what might happen. Let me know how it goes. I promise to write you back!

3 comments:

Roxanne said...

Great idea...I'll do it!

madgew said...

I have been doing that all my life and it has worked out wonderfully. Loved you post this morning.

Brianne said...

I wish this worked in the land of flaky NYC. Most people don't want to make any set plans in case something better comes along. Ugh, get me out of here.

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